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I want the happy Mama back

Lately, I have been feeling overwhelmed with all the things that needs my attention. Meals to prepare. House to clean. School work to be submitted.

Merely thinking of them makes me tired, that I end up just sulking the day away in self-pity.

I have worn the stay-at-home-mom crown for eight years now and I am happy with the decision of devoting my time and energy to be a homemaker. I wake up every day to be the best me for my family.

But then…

Walking the path to be the best mom, best playmate, best cook and best partner in life can take up so much of a person’s energy.


Feeling all these has turned me to a Mom I do not want my kids to have. Irritated mom who easily gets upset. I do not and cannot somehow find the time to give them my undivided attention.


“Do not mind the mess, and get some rest.”  You may suggest.

I have heard that suggestion numerous times but then I cannot really take a good rest or have some quality me time when I know that all the mess is just there waiting for me.

“Just hire cleaners, then” That’s a good suggestion.


I feel so guilty employing extra help in the house. Hiring cleaners means another cost added to our finances. For me, it feels like I am wasting my husband’s hard earn money.

I feel like I have failed as a homemaker. One of the reasons why I am staying at home is to manage our home, right?!


I already noticed that my attitude towards the kids have changed how they open up to me. My once enthusiastic boy is now scared of telling me things. He would now start any conversation with “Mama, do not get upset ok, I just want to tell you that…”


I have to let go of the guilty feeling and just let go of unnecessary stress. Soon.

I want to bring back the happy mama my family deserve to have.


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Hi, my name is Abigail a stay at home Mama of two LittleOnes and currently residing in Dubai, UAE since 2009. This is my little space online where I share activities, places we've been, food we enjoy and snippets of our daily expat life. ‘Cuddles and Crumbs’ is a combination of the two main things I share on this blog: cuddles (family) and crumbs (food).


  1. It’s normal to feel overwhelmed, but even a little change can make you feel better. Take a day or two off from everything. Book a spa, go to the salon, or go shopping. It’s only when you’re happy that your kids will be happy.

  2. angelica caidoy says

    Ate… nakarelate ako. Hehe. Lalo na kapag two kids inaalagaan. Hope that you can go back to being a happy mom soon. Xoxo. Tc.

  3. sugarmomys says

    We all have that phase in our life and we feel tired and overwhelmed. You need a break and please don’t feel guilty of hiring help for few hours. Just keep them for twice a month so that it won’t cost you so much. I’m sure god sees our pain so he will definitely help you! You just need some me time to get back to your happy self. This will help you a lot Abi ❤️ Take care

  4. This post has come at a time when I am having so many similar frustrations Abigail. The thing is, when you are a SAHM, you don’t have the luxury of a weekend break from your job where you can recharge. Maybe it’s time to have a Mummy-cation…X

  5. As cliche as this may sound, cannot stress on the importance of me-time. And it need not be something expensive; sometimes a nice, long chat with a dear friend over coffee is the perfect solution! And just to let you know, we have all been in this boat. I feel terrible about being an angry/irritated/unhappy mum at times; but you must know that it isint an unhealthy feeling at all. Also, kids are super receptive and know exactly ‘how much’ you do for them. Sending you a warm hug.

    • Thanks for the hug. I need one (lots)! I opened up about how I felt to both kids, they took it well and promised to help me around the house as well.

  6. Sending you lots and lots of e-hugs and good vibes! There are definitely moments when we all are stuck in a funk, but as I said before, a Happy Mummy results in a Happy Home. You need to first take care of yourself and do whatever makes you happy. Take some time out for yourself and come back refreshed. Hope this funk ends soon!

  7. Hope you’ll feel better soon <3. We all pass through the same at a certain period but the love we have in our hearts will make us recover fast.

  8. I love how honest you are here. They say it takes a village to raise a child and we are doing way more than we can alone. Please do not feel guilty if you have to get extra help.

    Sending loads of hugs your way. ❤

    • Thank you Neelu!

      The support I am getting from all of you is really a great help. Now I know that I am not alone and crazy to have this feeling.

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  10. This is so true. Sometimes us homemaker just need a few hours to ourselves so we can be the best mom/wife we can be. The big question is when can we find the time. What’s great is that God made woman to be able to do it all and although we struggle if we keep trucking through we will be able to accomplish anything we want… especially being a great mom!

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